Maternal GateKeeping
Mother Knows Best. 2011. Daily Mail. Web.
A woman is a maternal gatekeeper when she prevents her husband from engaging in certain activities such as childcare. A maternal gatekeeper will usually do everything in her power to assume most of the control over a child's care. She will even go as far as to criticize the actions of the father and prevent him from spending time with their children. Some maternal gatekeepers choose to act in this manner because they feel that their self-worth-which is based on their homemaking and childrearing skills will become tarnished if they hand over some of their duties to the father. Other gatekeepers might be so accustomed to their roles as primary caregivers that while they might feel relieved when the father takes on some of their duties, they also feel displaced. It is this simultaneous feeling of guilt and relief that can drive a a woman to become a maternal gatekeeper. Sadly, becoming a maternal gatekeeper can prove to be detrimental not only to the mother herself, but also to the father and the children who will spend less time together. Using personal accounts and statistics, the following articles reinforce how a mom's attitudes can affect a dad's parenting.
Resources
American Psychological Association. 1892. APA. Web.
American Psychological Association
According to the APA, if mothers want to get fathers more involved in their children's lives, mothers have to encourage fathers to spend more time with their children. However, 21% of mothers engage in "maternal gatekeeping." According Alex Rowell, a doctoral student at Ohio University, the rise in maternal gatekeeping is due to the fact that society's expectations of child-rearing responsibilities have evolved in a manner that does not involve fathers. This study also mentions the activation relationship theory and its relation to maternal gatekeeping.
According to the APA, if mothers want to get fathers more involved in their children's lives, mothers have to encourage fathers to spend more time with their children. However, 21% of mothers engage in "maternal gatekeeping." According Alex Rowell, a doctoral student at Ohio University, the rise in maternal gatekeeping is due to the fact that society's expectations of child-rearing responsibilities have evolved in a manner that does not involve fathers. This study also mentions the activation relationship theory and its relation to maternal gatekeeping.
 Parenting Yahoo. 2015. Yahoo.Web.
Mothers begin to judge their male partners differently even before the baby arrives.According to Sarah Schoppe-Sullivan, Ph.D., lead study author and professor of human sciences at Ohio State University, maternal gatekeeping is something new that moms engage in. Schoppe-Sullivan along with her research team is making it their goal to find out what makes a mother become a gatekeeper or not.
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Jessica Alba on Parenting Magazine. 2012. Celebuzz. Web.
According to parenting.com, wives have significantly less confidence in their husband's parenting skills than the husbands themselves! Dads also admit that they would love to help out more if the wives would let them.
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"...consider dialing back any perfectionist expectations that compel you to see your partner as a less-than-ideal dad and encourage an unconfident father to spend more time with the baby, so he beefs up his dad self-esteem".
-Sarah Schoppe-Sullivan